Tuesday, 30 November 2021

Men’s Health Awareness Month with Tom Truman

November marks Men’s Health Awareness month, a campaign to support those tackling prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and mental health issues. Tom Truman, Mental Health and Wellbeing Liaison Officer & MBA Student at Coventry University, discusses the issues surrounding men’s mental health and what it means to him.

- Tom Truman

Mental health problems can affect anyone, but discrimination and stigma can make people anxious in talking about their experiences to seek help. Outdated attitudes to gender norms reinforce the myth that men should be ‘tough’, and they are not a ‘man’ if they show any sign of weakness. A lot of men may fail to recognise the warning signs and maybe unwilling, or unable, to seek help. There is no shame in feeling helpless or down; everyone experiences these feelings. Men, it’s OK not to be OK. 

A few months ago, I started running to get fitter. I wanted to spend more time outside and lose some of my lockdown timber! Running is a cheap and accessible method of exercise. The endorphins it produces makes you feel better about yourself and taking part in a run is a positive self-achievement. Within a few months, I built up my confidence and fitness to run a Half Marathon to raise vital funds for Student Minds which was a fantastic experience. Taking part in fundraising on behalf of Student Minds was a great way to have fun and raise awareness of their important work. The fundraising helped keep me accountable for my own fitness goals. Within 4 months of starting running, I managed to run a half marathon and raise over £1200. If you are undertaking a fitness challenge, please consider fundraising for Student Minds: https://justgiving.com/fundraising/tomstudentminds 

Men getting involved with fundraising and talking about mental health are billboards for men’s health and often it sparks off conversations with other men in their lives to talk about their mental and physical health and seek help. 

I would urge anyone who may be experiencing difficulties with their mental health to tell someone because you can bet that you are certainly not alone. The sooner you reach out and ask for help, the sooner you will start to feel better. You just have to take that first step and once you have, things will start to change, and you’ll wonder why you left it so long in the first place.

You can fundraise to support Student Minds and student mental health too, find out more today.



Tom is a degree educated Mental Health and Training professional currently undertaking an MBA in Leadership for personal development. Tom has previously worked in the accommodation, charity, and training sectors. Tom loves Cats and has the dream of going on a safari in Africa to see big Cats in the wild!

Friday, 19 November 2021

What is friendship therapy and how could it help my friendships?

Taylor walks us through friendship therapy and gives some advice on how to deal with issues within a friendship.

Taylor Machuca-Koniw 

Friends enhance the quality of our lives. Yet when these friendships break down, it can really start to impact our mental and physical health.   You might have had a falling out with a childhood friend, or your bestie might be going through a hard time and consequently built up a wall between you.  Friendships, just like any relationship, come and go throughout our lives. Sometimes it’s only natural to go your separate ways - especially if you’re dealing with a toxic friendship. But if your friendship is worth salvaging, perhaps consider giving friendship therapy a try.  


What is friendship therapy?  

Traditionally, couples therapy has focused on romantic couples, married couples, or family members.  Nowadays, couples therapy has extended to include our friendships. Since our friends are - more often than not - a longstanding and integral relationship in our lives, it makes sense that if for whatever reason there’s a breakdown in that relationship, therapy may be a positive way of intervening and repairing it. 

Friendship therapy is essentially couples therapy for friends. Those in platonic relationships can seek counselling to address common relationship issues such as lack of communication, conflict resolution, and feelings of betrayal or neglect.  


Why friendship therapy?  

Strong relationships enhance the quality of our lives. Having the social support of our friends can quickly turn a bad day into a good one, help us to feel a sense of purpose, and make us feel less alone in the world. Since the pandemic, many of us have faced a whole new host of friendship challenges, making it even harder to stay connected and maintain healthy relationships.  

For friends who are finding it hard to communicate or have difficulty supporting each other through difficult times, friendship therapy may help. It offers a safe space for friends to air out their dirty laundry and let more meaningful conversations happen.   Like all relationships, friendships require work to maintain them.  A trained counsellor can help friends restore their bond and build a better understanding of each other’s needs.   


When should you seek friendship therapy? 

 If your friendship has been suffering during the pandemic or you’re finding it hard to stay connected with friends, you might want to consider friendship therapy.  

You might also seek friendship therapy if you or your friend are struggling with the following issues in your friendship:  

  • One-sided communication 
  • Extreme jealousy or competitive behaviours 
  • Lack of support or compassion 
  • Constant blaming or shaming 
  • Controlling behaviours  
  • Drama or attention-seeking behaviours 
  • Disrespecting each other’s boundaries 
  • Mental health or substance abuse issues 


If you are finding your friendship is causing you undue stress in your life, then it’s a good idea to seek professional help. If you are concerned for your friend’s wellbeing and it’s affecting your relationship, then suggest friendship therapy as a way to help solve these issues, together,  with a trusted professional.  


Tips on helping a friend through a hard time  

If you’re interested in broaching the subject of friendship therapy with your friend, make sure to do so in an empathetic manner. Show your friend some sympathy, and give them space to listen to them without judgment. 

You can try a statement such as, “I’m sad that you’re in a tough situation right now. I want to be able to help”, or, “I recognise we’re both hurting and I want us to be closer again. What do you think about trying out friendship therapy as a way to get our friendship back to a healthy place?”.  

Ask them if there’s anything you can do to help support them. You may find honest, non-judgmental discussions like this will be what it takes to fix any issue within your friendship. If, however, things aren’t going the way you hoped or if you both struggle with expressing your concerns, a friendship therapist can be exactly what you need to steer your friendship out of the tough place it’s currently in. 


Rebuilding your friendship  

Finding the right therapist can be all it takes to mend your friendship. When it comes to finding a friendship therapist, look for someone who is trained in couples counselling since relationship-building will be their expertise. Cost concerns should also be brought up so you both know exactly how much you’ll be investing in counselling. When you bring up the idea of friendship therapy with your friend, be careful to do so in a compassionate way. Make it clear to your friend that your intention is to rebuild your relationship and give it the attention it deserves.



If you or your friends are currently struggling within your relationship, help can always be found here



Taylor Machuca-Koniw is a freelance writer with a passion for yoga, bubble baths, and baking. She and her American husband have been in a long-distance relationship for 7 years, and are pros at how to make long-distance work. Taylor is a language enthusiast - she speaks Russian and Ukrainian and is currently learning Spanish.