Loneliness at University: A Common, Shared Experience

William discusses the common experience of loneliness at university, emphasising that it’s okay to feel this way. He shares tips for coping and encourages students to connect, support each other, and create a more inclusive environment.

- William Sarenden

Loneliness is something we don’t talk about enough. Yet, it’s an experience many students face — perhaps more often than we realise. 

The transition to university is a massive life change. You’re stepping into an unfamiliar environment, meeting new people, and often leaving behind the support systems you’ve relied on. You might even find yourself feeling lonely despite making friends, excelling in your studies, or working toward your goals.  

If this resonates with you, know this: you’re not alone in these feelings, and it’s okay. Loneliness is a deeply human emotion, and acknowledging it is the first step toward overcoming it.  

The Impact of Loneliness

Loneliness is more than an emotional challenge and can affect many aspects of life, from academic focus to physical well-being and self-esteem. It often leads to a cycle of withdrawal, making it even harder to break free from. But loneliness isn’t a sign of weakness or failure; it’s a natural signal that something needs attention. Much like hunger tells us to eat, loneliness is a reminder to seek connection. What matters is how we respond to this feeling and the steps we take to address it.  

The Value of Community

During my time at university, I’ve learned that community is vastly understated. Whether it’s sharing a laugh during a chaotic group work session, exchanging smiles in a lecture, or starting a conversation at an event, small interactions can lead to the most meaningful connections. It's true though that building a sense of community requires effort. Imagine how different university life could feel if we all made an effort to include others — whether by saying hello, organizing a get-together, or simply asking, “Are you okay?” It’s not about having a vast social circle but about fostering genuine moments of connection.  

Practical Ways to Tackle Loneliness

If you’re struggling with loneliness, here are some strategies that have worked for me and others I know:  

• Reframe Your Perspective – Loneliness is a signal, not a flaw. Instead of seeing it as something negative, think of it as an opportunity for growth. This mindset shift can help you feel empowered to take action.  
• Seek Social Opportunities – Get involved in campus clubs or societies that align with your interests. I found that group activities have helped me slide into conversation more easily, allowing me to grow my circle and feel more comfortable starting conversations with new people.  
• Open Up – Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can make a significant difference. Vulnerability can deepen relationships and help others understand you better.  
• Start Small – Begin with small gestures, like greeting someone in your class or striking up a light conversation. Over time, these interactions can grow into meaningful connections. I know that some of my closest friends have come from these small acts.  
• Care for Yourself – When loneliness feels overwhelming, self-care can often be overlooked. Prioritise eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest—your physical well-being directly affects your mental health.  

A Shared Journey

Loneliness is a common experience that doesn’t define you but reminds you that you’re human. It might feel daunting at times, but with patience, persistence, and a little drive, it’s something you can overcome.  

If you feel isolated, remember that many of your peers are navigating similar challenges. None of us have it all figured out, and most of us have moments of uncertainty and longing for connection.  

University life is full of ups and downs, but it’s also brimming with opportunities for growth and connection. Let’s make an effort to create a more inclusive and supportive environment, together. Who knows? That awkward hello might lead to a friendship that lasts a lifetime.  

Take care of yourselves, and don’t hesitate to seek support if you need it.

 

Find out more about how you can overcome loneliness at the Student Space.

I am a final-year Philosophy undergraduate, and I wanted to write about loneliness because it’s something I’ve observed all too often during my time at university and something I’ve experienced myself. Reflecting on my journey, I realise how helpful it would have been to have some guidance along the way. My hope in sharing these thoughts is that it might help others feel a little less alone.

No Mind Left Behind

This World Mental Health Day, the Editorial Team have come together to discuss the theme 'No Mind Left Behind' and how it has related to their university experience.

- Student Minds Blog Editorial Team

⭐ How can you bring mental health into your conversations? ⭐

Talking about mental health doesn't have to be awkward. Start by normalizing it in everyday conversations. Instead of just asking, "How are you?" try, "How are you feeling mentally?" This can lead to more honest responses. Sharing your own experiences with stress or anxiety can also make others feel more comfortable opening up. Be a good listener—sometimes, just being there is enough. You don’t need to have solutions. Lastly, encourage self-care by suggesting things like study breaks or mindfulness activities, which can naturally lead to conversations about mental well-being.

⭐ How can you talk about your mental health with someone else? ⭐

Opening up to someone about your mental health can feel daunting. It's important to share how you're feeling with someone you trust. It can sometimes help to write things down if it's a particularly important or difficult conversation to have. Find a way of communicating that feels right for you, whether it be face-to-face or on a phone call. When explaining how you're feeling it can help to give examples, like a description you've found from a book or online. Ultimately, being open and honest about what's going on for you can help others understand you better. That way they'll know how best to help you. Keep the dialogue open, it's not necessarily a one-conversation fix, understanding mental health takes time and patience.

⭐ How can you listen to someone else opening up about their mental health? ⭐

Although it might sound silly, the most important thing to do is be an active listener. But what does this actually mean?

Firstly, being an active listener means focusing on the conversation — avoiding any distractions that could disrupt the conversation, such as phone calls. Secondly, being an active listener means trying not to interrupt or rush the conversation — instead, showing empathy and patience in the process. It is important to give people the time and space they need to open up because having a conversation about mental health is a brave thing to do! Lastly, being an active listener is being aware of your body language – is it positive?

However, remember that you are not a specialist. Signposting the individual to appropriate resources allows you to set your boundaries while helping them find the best support for them!

How are you getting involved this World Mental Health Day? Share with the team - we'd love to hear from you!

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Written by the Student Minds Blog Editorial Team.

Freshers' may not be the best time of your life

Hollie reflects on her struggles with mental health during her first year of university, sharing what she wishes she had known.

- Hollie Rose

As the car rolled up the Bailey and the wheels moved over the cobblestones as we approached Durham Cathedral, I spotted my new home to my left, with iron gates opening onto the future I had been dreaming of for years. I wish I could meet that nineteen-year-old girl to give her a hug, holding in my arms all her trepidation around being in catered accommodation and the unique experience of having a roommate. I wish I could tell her it would all be okay. But on that day in late September when I approached the college that I would eventually be overly involved in, little did I know that I was opening one of the darkest chapters of my life. And – spoiler alert – little would I believe, at the end of my first year as I made the same journey in reverse down the historic Bailey with a car full of my belongings, that in two years I would sob at the mere thought of leaving a city I am so proud to say I created a life in.  

For those of us who have experience already with tumultuous mental health before we arrive at university, we can fear what that will look like in a new city, with a transformed support system and a routine completely turned on its head. I can attest that it will all be okay…eventually.  

But that does not mean it will instantly be okay in freshers’ week or as a fresher at all. If you are someone who struggles to adapt, you are not on your own. Believe me, even those who adjust the fastest have moments of doubt or feeling like an imposter.  I prided myself up until university in being able to make things work, even if they weren’t ideal. I did not realise how much of that ability relied on the thing I claimed to hate: routine.   

The nature of living in catered accommodation meant meals became an intense stress factor for me as I had little to no choice and control over my food. As such, I would avoid meals, eliminating consistent points in a daily routine. This not only meant I lost structure in my day, which meant I ended up cocooning myself in bed longer into the day than I care to admit but also meant I was allowing my anxiety around meals to cut me off from the socialisation around mealtimes. Similarly, it became easier to skip lectures and seminars, provide email excuses for my absences and barely leave my room as the longer the gaps between my attendance became, the greater my anxiety of walking into those rooms grew.   

Within my first year, I became a ghost of myself because I did not know how to create a flexible and accommodating routine for myself. Instead, my comfort zone shrank to a small outline around my feet. It was not until my third year that I truly began to flourish because I gave myself the grace to manage my anxiety and depression.  

I implemented a flexible routine that focused on meeting my basic needs each day rather than attempting to meet unrealistic goals. I did not want to get up obscenely early, I just wanted to get out of bed each day. I did not care if I changed from one set of pyjamas to another, I was changing out of the clothes I slept in. I may not have the energy to cook from scratch, but I would eat at least one fully prepared meal. And I would go outside for a least five minutes, even if those five minutes were no further than my garden.  

What I found, is pushing myself to do these tasks often meant I started my day, whether at 7am or 7pm, in a headspace more willing and able to challenge my comfort zone, rather than waking up already feeling like a failure because I had missed an arbitrary morning alarm. I was focusing on a routine to meet my needs. And I was able to constantly challenge my comfort zone, watching it grow bit by bit, by challenging my depression and anxiety to constantly meet my basic needs.  

Another big change is I allowed myself to ask for help – something fresher me would never believe. But asking for help from student support resulted in the extension that saved my dissertation, which was the thing I had cared most about from my entire degree.   

Please know that it is okay if freshers’ week, or even your first year, isn’t the best time of your life. There are services available to help support you to get to the place that took me years to get to.   

Give yourself the grace to understand and meet your own mental health needs.

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Hiya, I'm Hollie, a masters student who has struggled throughout my university studies with various mental health conditions. Wellbeing and mental health advocacy, as well as LGBTQ+ representation, are at the heart of what I do, and as such, I hope to help students feel seen and supported through sharing my own story.

Managing University and Home Duties as Eldest Siblings

Naa Yarley shares her journey of balancing university and family responsibilities as the eldest sibling in an immigrant family, offering strategies for managing both effectively.

- Naa Yarley

Balancing the demands of university life is challenging for any student, but it can become overwhelmingly difficult when coupled with the responsibilities of being an older sibling in a tough home environment. As the eldest daughter in an immigrant family, I faced unique challenges that often left me feeling isolated and overwhelmed. This blog is for others who might find themselves in similar situations, particularly those from first or second-generation immigrant backgrounds, to share my journey and offer strategies that helped me navigate these complexities.  

Growing up as the eldest sibling, I often felt a heavy burden of responsibility. In many immigrant families, the role of the older sibling extends beyond typical sibling duties. This expectation can sometimes lead to parentification, where the older child takes on roles usually reserved for parents. For me, this meant constantly balancing my academic commitments with the need to support my younger siblings and help manage household responsibilities.  

One vivid memory that stands out is studying for a major exam while simultaneously caring for my younger siblings. Our parents were working late, and I was left in charge of preparing dinner, helping with homework, and ensuring everyone was ready for the next day. By the time I could finally focus on my own studies, it was late, and exhaustion had set in. The pressure was immense. There were times when the weight of my responsibilities at home overshadowed my academic goals, making it difficult to focus on my studies. This struggle was exacerbated by the feeling of isolation. The cultural nuances of my situation were not something I could easily share with my peers, further deepening my sense of loneliness.  

Moving to university was especially difficult because it led to a feeling of powerlessness. Challenges at home often led me to isolate myself. I found it hard to relate to other students who seemed to have a much lighter load. My time outside of classes was consumed by family obligations, leaving little room for social interactions or personal downtime. This isolation was not just physical but emotional, as I struggled to find anyone who could understand or relate to my unique situation.  

Recognising the need to focus on myself and my own well-being, I began exploring ways to find support and build connections outside of my home environment. One significant step was joining the Young Greens Society at my university. This decision was transformative for several reasons. The society provided a platform to meet new people who shared my interests and values. It offered a sense of community and belonging that I had been missing. Engaging in activities that I was passionate about helped me reclaim a part of myself that had been overshadowed by my responsibilities at home. Volunteering at local environmental events and attending meetings gave me a sense of purpose and accomplishment outside of my family duties. Lastly, participating in the society's events gave me a structured break from my home responsibilities, allowing me to manage my time more effectively.  

Another crucial strategy was utilising the resources available at my university. I was fortunate to have access to a very good therapist on campus. Therapy provided a safe space to express my feelings and experiences without judgment. It was a relief to talk about the pressures and challenges I faced as an older sibling and to receive guidance on how to manage these responsibilities while prioritising my mental health. During one particularly tough semester, my therapist helped me develop coping strategies to manage my anxiety and stress. This support was invaluable, especially during exam periods when the pressure from home and school felt overwhelming. Universities often offer a range of support services that can be invaluable for students dealing with complex home situations, including free or low-cost counselling or academic support.   

Balancing university life with the responsibilities of being an older sibling in a tough home situation is no easy feat, especially for the eldest siblings in immigrant families. The weight of these responsibilities can lead to feelings of isolation and overwhelm. However, by seeking support, building connections, and utilising university resources, it is possible to navigate these challenges effectively.  

My journey has taught me the importance of prioritising my own well-being and seeking out supportive communities. To anyone in a similar situation, know that you are not alone. There are resources and people out there who can help you manage your responsibilities while achieving your academic goals. 

 

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I'm a second-year university student and the eldest daughter of an immigrant family. I’m sharing my story to connect with others who balance academic pressures with family responsibilities, offering support and strategies that have helped me navigate these challenges.

University changes your life, there is no doubt about that

Charlotte shares the struggles around the pressures and expectations of freshers year at university. (TW: death)

- Charlotte Millar

Your university experience is uniquely yours. 

I came to university with the expectation that I had to be prepared to have the “typical university experience”, to do it right. However, I soon realised that this couldn’t be further from the truth. Social media often highlights students partying and making loads of friends, creating pressure to live a certain lifestyle. 

Before university, I wasn’t a big drinker but I felt compelled to join in during fresher’s week getting drunk every night until I realised this wasn’t for me. I was one of the first in my flat to turn down a night out, and now we spend more time playing Mario Kart than we do going clubbing! Don’t be fooled by the glamorous portrayal of university life online. For me and everyone I know, university is the most amazing but loneliest experience of our lives.  

I built friendships with people I felt I clicked with, and before I knew it I had a group of friends who, one year later, I am so lucky to consider my best friends. I was posting videos, replying less to my friends from home, and often talking about how amazing my uni life was. However, the honest truth is, my best friend from home was at a different university and having a very different experience. She wasn’t close to her flatmates and struggled to find people who shared her interests. Social media made her believe that this wasn’t okay, and she felt like she had failed to immerse herself in the expected university experience. This, along with other factors, devastatingly contributed to her taking her own life after 3 weeks of university. This turned my world upside down in more ways than you can imagine.  

I returned to university after taking some time out to process this huge loss in my life and suddenly became so much more aware of the intense pressures of university life. Why were there so many expectations? Why is there an assumption that your flatmates will be your new best friends? Why does social media dictate the type of experience we should have? If you don’t enjoy that lifestyle, why pressure yourself to conform?  

University changes your life, there is no doubt about that. It is important to remember that ultimately, it is just a degree. You are not defined by this degree, and you have to do what is right for you. Come to university with no expectations and an open mind. If you need to go home every weekend, then that’s what you need to do. If you want to stay at university as much as possible, then that’s what you need to do. University is a huge chapter in anyone’s life and it is crucial that you look after yourself. No degree is more important than your mental health – your happiness comes first.  

Throw yourself in and give it your all, but if you realise that university isn’t the right path for you or not a path you feel is best for you at this specific time in your life, then know you have options. 

Mental health doesn’t discriminate, anyone can struggle at any time and that’s okay. If you are reading this, please remember there is so much help out there – you are loved and this experience does not define you. This new chapter of your life is yours and nobody else’s. Do what feels right for you and take care of yourself, please ask for support when you need it. Be kind to yourself - I can assure you that you are doing better than you think. 

 

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I believe that the pressures of first year at university are not spoken about enough, and sadly, I saw the devastating effects these pressures and expectations can have. If even one person reading this realises that there is no perfect uni experience, just an individual one - then I am glad I shared a piece of my story. 

Balancing Exams and Well-being: My Journey to Success

Zainab shares her journey to managing academic stress through effective time management, active learning, self-care and seeking support when needed.

- Zainab

University exams and assignments often felt overwhelming, turning what should have been a learning experience into a major source of stress for me. I noticed that stress showed up as anxiety, trouble concentrating, and even physical symptoms like headaches and insomnia. Recognising these signs early was key to managing them effectively and I found that good time management really helped with academic stress.  

Creating detailed schedules, breaking tasks into smaller chunks, prioritising urgent assignments and setting realistic goals all helped me avoid last-minute cramming and ensured I had enough time for more challenging subjects. It wasn’t just about how many hours I studied, but how effectively I used those hours. Active learning methods like summarising information in my own words, teaching it to someone else or applying concepts to real-world scenarios were incredibly helpful. Joining study groups with my peers was also beneficial; we reviewed content, discussed complex topics and shared different perspectives. This also helped me become more outgoing and confident in speaking to new people, which had always been a struggle for me.  

Waiting for results was another big source of stress for me. I was always terrified the outcome would be disappointing. When I did well, I made sure to celebrate my achievements and acknowledge the hard work I had put in. If the results weren’t what I had hoped for, I tried not to dwell on the negativity. Instead, I used them as a learning experience, identifying areas for improvement and seeking feedback. I reminded myself that one set of results didn’t define my overall ability or future potential. Keeping a balanced view, I remembered that academic results were just one part of my life, and I had strengths and achievements outside the academic sphere as well.  

Self-care became a crucial part of my routine during periods of academic pressure. Regular exercise, whether it was a brisk walk in the park near my house, heading off to the gym, or my personal favourite—a movie marathon, especially when it was cold and rainy outside—was a great stress reliever for me. I tried to nourish my body with a balanced diet, avoiding too much caffeine and sugar, which was hard for me given how much I loved sweets. I found that too much sugar and caffeine could increase anxiety and disrupt my sleep. Ensuring I got 7-9 hours of sleep each night became a priority, as good sleep improved memory, concentration, and overall thinking, which were essential for effective studying and exam performance. 

Incorporating mindfulness and relaxation techniques, like meditation or spending time reading the books piled up in my never-ending TBR, significantly reduced my stress levels. Staying connected with loved ones and sharing my concerns with them was also important for my well-being. I found that just talking about what I was going through could alleviate stress.  

When stress became overwhelming, seeking professional help was vital. My university offered counselling services, and speaking with the wellbeing and support team provided me with strategies to manage stress and maintain mental well-being. While exams and assignments are integral parts of the academic journey, they shouldn’t come at the expense of health and happiness. 

By implementing effective time management, engaging in smart study practices, handling results with a balanced perspective, and prioritising self-care, I navigated these pressures successfully. I learned that maintaining a healthy balance was key to both academic success and personal fulfilment.

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I'm Zainab, a university student who has struggled with the overwhelming stress of exams and assignments. I'm sharing my story to help others who might be facing similar challenges. By sharing the strategies that worked for me, I hope to offer support and practical advice for managing academic pressure and maintaining well-being.

The Student Lifestyle: Accessing Support

Callum discusses the student lifestyle and accessing support at University

- Callum - Centre for Mental Health

For as long as there have been students, there has been the notion of a ‘Student Lifestyle’. Across all sections of society, including the student body itself, there is an expectation that students must lower their standards for living. Students are meant to be poor, to have low quality housing, and to drink to excess. Moreover, the ‘Student Bubble’ means that students are excluded – and exclude themselves – from the wider community; this absurd way of life is normalised through exclusive exposure.

 
But what is this doing to our students? And how has it changed in recent times? As a student of 7 years (BSc, MSci, PhD), I have lived as part of a shifting student world. I have seen playful conversations about poor housing turn into desperate fears of homelessness. I have seen social drink-and-drug-use descend into chronic dependency. I have seen inadequate support disappear in its entirety, and people left to deal with their struggles.

 
It is well established that insecure housing, poverty, and isolation are risk factors for mental ill health. As much as by biological factors, mental health is dependent on social determinants like these. The student lifestyle is not something that is aspired to. Instead, it is driven by unfair employment laws, insufficient renters’ rights, and a tacit institutional endorsement of harmful cultural norms.

 
These key issues are identified and addressed in the Student Mental Health Manifesto. In this manifesto, Student Minds highlight the societal barriers between students and good mental health. By writing this blog, I hope to echo their sentiment, and explore how these factors have changed during my seven years as a student. Being a student does not exclude you from your right to health; the demands in Student Mind’s manifesto can address these inequalities. A mentally healthier nation for all, must include students too.

When I started university, I found myself in a state of flux. I was, for better or worse, becoming an adult. As for many people, this was a tumultuous time for me. I had moved to a new city - away from my friends and family - to study a subject I knew little about. I was forced into housing with total strangers, for which privilege I had paid more than half my termly loan. I was broke. I was anxious.

This was not my first taste of anxiety. Throughout my A levels, I had been receiving support for persistent mental health difficulties. I was constantly afraid of losing my friends, and of failing my exams. At times, it was debilitating. Without counselling, I would never have been able to go to university in the first place.

This is where the problem lies. Upon starting uni, I was suddenly bereft of such support. It’s not that the university had nothing to offer me. Indeed, I was constantly reminded of the raft of support services which they could provide. The trouble was accessing this support. Both statutory and university services were plagued by massive waiting lists. Moreover, fear of organising my own doctors’ appointments meant that I had been unable to get repeat prescriptions for my antidepressants. With these soon running out, I was plunged into the turmoil of medicinal withdrawal. My emotions were unstable, and my mental health in a spiral.

It took until September of 2022 for me to get on top of my medication. I started university in 2017.

Many students start university with mental ill health. The new environment, and isolation from support networks, can precipitate these difficulties. Moreover, as students transition from paediatric to adult mental health support, the lack of joined-up care can mean that people are lost in the system. This is especially true for students who leave home, and move to a new NHS trust.

This happened to me, and with growing waiting lists, the risks are only rising. There is a false understanding that students are meant to be stressed. That, to learn independence, students must face the challenges of life unsupported. This is a harmful and unsubstantiated assumption; mental health support is important. For people in a new place, and a new stage of life, it is increasingly difficult to access the care they have come to rely on. Accessing talking therapy for the first time can take up to 6 weeks from the point of referral. Between this first contact, and a more comprehensive programme of care, the wait is 62.5 days. That is an unacceptable length of time to wait, especially if the care you have grown accustomed to is suddenly withdrawn.

As outlined in the Student Mental Health Manifesto, more cohesive care is a critical step in addressing this. An intermediary service for young people aged 18-25 could help in the transition to adult services. These services should be equipped to holistically support people with independent living. Moreover, better record sharing between NHS trusts - and proactive outreach to students under new care authorities – will help meet the needs of people in a very vulnerable stage of life.

Like many students, university was my first foray into house sharing. In the summer of second year, I was living in a three-person flat with a tenancy set to renew. The place was a basement, with an overgrown garden and proliferating damp. The rent was rising, and our loans were not. Moreover, we were locked into our contract, and had been since October the previous year. Due to a competitive rental market, and insufficient protections for student renters, we were forced to sign our rental contract a year before it started. This is a fraught environment in which to make housing decisions, and for many people this can backfire. I was one of these people.

At this time, I entered a protracted period of depression. This co-occurred with hostility between myself and one of my flat mates, which created a harmful environment for me. In retrospect, there was no ‘bad guy’ in this situation; we were evidently ill-suited to living together. Unfortunately, because of the way that the housing market worked, finding an alternative living arrangement was near impossible. We could not escape our contract, nor afford to rent twice. We were stuck together, and made each other miserable.

I hear similar reports from other students: stories of people with respiratory disorders, in flats rife with mould; of people who get bullied by housemates, to the point of physical abuse; of people who work for minimum wage, to still fall short of their exorbitant rent. In all these situations, a predatory housing market traps people within harmful environments.

With the cost-of-living crisis, things have gotten worse. Right now, the student maintenance loan is pegged to the predicted rate of inflation from two years ago. Inflation has far outpaced student loans, forcing people to live miles from campus in homes that are barely habitable. Even then, the cost of rent and bills is so high that many must choose between food and heating. Indeed, research from HEPI has shown that, in university accommodation, the average student is left with 50p to live on.

Poor housing is a major risk factor for mental ill health. The ‘student squat’ is not a suitable living environment. As such, it is essential that we build more and better affordable housing, and that existing houses are retrofitted with the kind of provisions that make them safer and cheaper to live in. All renters, including students, should have their rights enforced, and landlords must be held accountable to their tenants’ health and wellbeing. On top of this, for those who must work to support themselves, a real living wage must be implemented as a minimum for adults of all ages. These recommendations, amongst others, are made in the Student Mental Health Manifesto. To achieve equality in mental health, we must act to prevent mental health disorders in all people.

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I am enthusiastic neuroscience student (PhD) and policy intern for Center for Mental Health, passionate about using research to change people's lives for the better.  

I am determined to work with researchers to change the mental health conversation, and advocate for fairer and more equitable health policies in the UK.

Overworking: How I work to be efficient

Daniel shares his tips and strategies to work efficiently while also enjoying time off.

- Daniel

A common problem for students is being overworked, as we all know, the work does not stop! As someone who is dyslexic, I often felt like I was falling behind. However, I found some techniques that helped me progress with my studies while also helping me to enjoy my free time. 

1. Morning routine

It is always hard to get work done when half the day has already gone. In my experience, getting up late becomes a habit that really hinders your ability to complete your work. Waking up early allowed me to complete more tasks and helped me with my workload, stress relief and mental health. 

2. Step-by-step assessments

Assessments are what count towards your final grade, but other work may need to be completed before cracking on with essay questions and projects. This is why I found doing a little bit of assessment work daily, like essay planning, helps to free up time for all the other work during the year, like exam revision. So, when you really need to focus on the assessment, you have more time to do so. It does not have to be much; a little bit of research or planning every day makes a difference. 

3. Take time off

It may seem like an obvious one, but sometimes it becomes a habit to work all of the time in order to get all your work done. But it will not be your best work and make you feel down if you miss out on events and opportunities. In my experience, I would make errors that I did not notice until after my work had been handed in. Therefore, it is very important to put strict limits on your work hours to keep your mind fresh and allow you to be efficient with your study time.

4. Pomodoro Technique

This technique helped me stay efficient and allowed me to get work done in small chunks. It includes multiple breaks and helps when you have work from different modules. 

5. Practicing core skills daily

My degree included a language and to keep my progress going in class and with my language skills, I would try to learn vocabulary and grammar and practice speaking with friends. This type of work can be transferred into other degree subjects. I recommend regular practice in these skills as it benefited me in my exams by saving time. 

Remember overworking and having less free time does not always put you ahead. It can put you further behind.

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.

My name is Daniel and I have recently graduated from the University of Reading where I studied BA Spanish and History. During my time at university, I struggled with dyslexia and mental health issues, so it is my aim to help as many people as possible who are going through similar issues. 

Finding support at university

The Editorial Team have come together to share their thoughts on finding support at university.

- Student Minds Blog Editorial Team

⭐ How could you reach out for support? ⭐

• Taylor: Reaching out can seem the most daunting step, especially when you have to figure out how to put your feelings into words. But this can be made easier, with a solid and safe network of people you trust and can talk to when times are tough, or by knowing who you can reach out to professionally at your university. 
• Emily A: It can be really challenging to 'put yourself out there' and find new circles to get to know. If you're looking for support, I would recommend going with your gut and seeking support from those you have established and trusted networks with. They are likely to be the best placed to know you and how best to help you in tricky times.
• Madeleine: Making the first step in reaching out can be difficult, remember to take your time and be proud of yourself for doing it, it's not always easy. Find someone you feel comfortable with to start the conversation, maybe a friend who's been supportive in the past. Know that while they might not have all the answers, your support network can help guide you to support and help you along the way.

⭐ How could you support a friend? ⭐

• Taylor: The simplest thing I was ever told to do was just listen. No comments or questions or judgements or opinions... simply just listening and making sure your friend knows that you are there to support them.
• Emily A: Sometimes it can be tempting to 'fill the void' and continue to make it known that you are there. Whilst intentions might be great, this can sometimes do the opposite of good for those you are trying to look out for - sometimes giving time and space can be just as beneficial, allowing your friends to bridge that final part and make a move towards you for support can give them a much-needed sense of control in a difficult time. It really means the world to know somebody is there to catch them if they fall, whether you need to do any catching at all is another thing entirely. 
• Madeleine: The most important thing you can do as a friend of someone who is struggling with their mental health is to reassure them that you are there for them, whatever they may be going through. Creating a safe space for them to talk about how they are feeling may make all the difference. You could send them a message to check in, ask if they want to grab a coffee or send them a postcard to remind them you're there. At the same time, if someone needs some space to feel better, it is important to allow them to come to you when they are ready. 

Can you think of any others? Share with the team - we'd love to hear from you!

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.

Written by the Student Minds Blog Editorial Team.

Embracing a New Chapter: My Ambitions and Aspirations for the New Year at University

Our author shares her thoughts and feelings about the new year and what her aims are.

- Anon

As the new year begins, I find myself standing at the threshold of a fresh chapter in my academic journey. The canvas of 2024 awaits, and with it, an array of ambitions and aspirations that I am eager to bring to fruition during my time at university. 

First and foremost, the advent of a new year invites reflection and the setting of goals. I believe in the power of resolutions, for they serve as guiding stars, illuminating the path toward personal and academic growth.

his year, my goals for university extend beyond the classroom. I aim to not only excel academically but also to engage more actively in extracurricular activities, fostering a well-rounded university experience. 

In approaching the task of adhering to new year goals, consistency becomes paramount. I've found that setting realistic and measurable objectives, breaking them down into smaller tasks, and regularly assessing my progress keeps me on track. 

This method not only aids in maintaining motivation but also allows for necessary adjustments to ensure success. As I step into 2024, I am also mindful of the importance of shedding old habits and embracing new ones. What I leave behind in 2023 are any lingering self-doubts and procrastination tendencies. 

• I’m aiming to start my coursework earlier so that I don’t feel that much pressure when the deadline is coming. The new year provides an opportunity for a fresh start, and I am committed to cultivating habits that promote productivity, time management, and a healthy work-life balance. 
• In terms of routines, 2024 holds the promise of structure and purpose. Establishing a daily routine that includes dedicated study time, breaks for self-care, and participation in campus activities will be instrumental in achieving a harmonious balance between academic and personal life. 
• The arrival of the new year elicits a mix of excitement and anticipation within me. It symbolizes not only the beginning of a semester but also a chance to redefine and refine my academic and personal pursuits. While challenges may arise, the prospect of overcoming them fuels my determination to make the most of every opportunity the university offers. To maintain a positive outlook in January, a month that often brings the post-holiday blues, I engage in activities that uplift my spirits. 
• Connecting with friends, setting aside time for hobbies, and practicing mindfulness through activities like meditation or journaling contribute to a positive mindset. 
• Additionally, I remind myself of the fresh start the new year signifies, focusing on the potential for growth and accomplishments in the months ahead. 

In conclusion, the new year at university beckons with promises of growth, achievement, and self-discovery. By setting clear goals, cultivating positive habits, and maintaining a resilient attitude, I am poised to make 2024 a year of academic success and personal fulfillment. This new year I’m not going to let dark thoughts enter my mind when I’m stressed about university, I will get over them! I just want to succeed this final year of university!

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.

We're on the lookout for new writers! If you have a story to share then get in touch with the Editorial Team.

University: The Best and Worst Time of Your Life

Xaviera (Vee) describes their university experiences as a student from many marginalised backgrounds and gives advice to any students who need it.

- Xavieria

When I first came to university, my focus was on studying only. I care a lot about my academics and plan to stay in education as a researcher at some point. I spent my first year alone and isolated. I lived in a self contained studio, away from a lot of people, because of my Autism. I didn’t do too well mentally and physically, although I achieved an okay grade at the end of the year (considering my mental health issues), at least I tried my best. 

This blog is not a reflection of my first year however, it is a discussion of how my second year changed drastically. 

Since moving to my university, I felt very isolated due to my race. I was a black student on a course with nearly 400 students. However, every time I went to lectures, I would see maybe 10 black students amidst the crowds. I felt unwelcome from the very beginning. 

Flash forward to second year. This year, I wanted to ensure that I did better than my first year in grades, and I made sure to attend every lecture possible. This lasted for about 3 weeks. The course content (13 hours per week) was too overwhelming. Because of my ADHD, Irlen’s and Dyslexia, I didn’t understand a word that was said in lectures. In addition, I was taking on so many extracurriculars that I ended up becoming physically weaker. My brain thinks too fast, and my IQ is too high for my own good. I kept up with things mentally, but physically my body started shutting down. I can no longer walk long distances without mobility aids, and due to the environmental stresses faced at my university, I had to withdraw from my studies. 

I hope to return to a different university next September, but my advice to you is this: take it easy.  Sometimes you need to practice self discipline in order to succeed in life, and spending all your time trying to be a “typical” student may not be the way to do that. I learn better when I self-study, but I told myself that I had to attend all lectures if I wanted to gain the most out of my degree. I burned myself out to the point where my mental disorders simply worsened. Once I was at a point where I was physically and mentally unfit to do anything, my university turned their back on me, and I nearly gave up. I have so many needs and difficulties, but learning about how to cope with everything and how to manage these things is crucial. 

I may be going through a rough patch now, but if you put the work in, sometimes things will get better. Not always, but logically speaking, you cannot determine that things will never get better, so giving up straight away is not the answer. 

Get the help you need, and try to remember: you deserve a break sometimes. University is not a time constrained education, you can take years to do a bachelor’s, or a masters, but do it in your own time, not anyone else’s.

I hope to make some positive changes, especially with equality, diversity and inclusion across the UK. My experiences have told me that universities may try to incorporate EDI, but not because they listen to student voices, but because they feel they have to. I’m gay, transgender, black, disabled, and assigned female at birth. There are students facing anti-Semitism, students being stigmatised for their mental health issues, and many other students facing all sorts of low-level discrimination. 

I want to change that. Writing this blog is the first step. Gathering statistical data and conducting my own research is next. One day, I hope to make universities across England better at being more diverse, not just to a couple of marginalised groups, but to everyone. Because that is what equality, diversity and inclusion is truly about.

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.  

Hi, my name is Xaviera but most people call me Vee! I'm 19, and wanted to enjoy university so badly, but found it difficult due to my disabilities and the internal racism I felt during my studies. I'm sharing my story so others who feel the same can hopefully feel less alone. I like to make productive changes, and the education system is a good place to start, especially from students themselves.

Finding kindness and community on social media

Madeleine explores how social media can be used for good, and what positive impacts it can bring to mental health.

- Madeleine Chamberlain

I have always had a love-hate relationship with Instagram. I first downloaded the app and others (like Facebook) when I was finishing up school, and so I missed the influence of social media while I was growing up. As a result, I wasn't aware of the trends and pressures these sites give to people, especially young women. 

For a while, I thought of it as a negative source of pressure, something which I tried to limit my use of. It still contains influencers who occasionally promote unhealthy attitudes to body image, and often prompts people to compare themselves to others in a negative light. However, in recent years, I have seen the positive benefits of Instagram. It is a place where people can bond over mutual interests and form online communities. Or it can simply be a place to check up and see what your friends have been up to. A way to express yourself, and show a bit of your personality to the world. 

While it is important to acknowledge that social media is not real life, and comparison can have negative impacts to our mental health, I believe it can be used for good...

Forming communities   

An online study influencer has a weekly post where she encourages her followers to comment something kind about the previous commenter’s Instagram page. Things like this can allow online communities to form, helping people feel more connected. Social media became even more important in COVID-19 lockdowns, helping people stay in touch, and lifting spirits with online challenges. While there are downsides to being online frequently, I have found healthy boundaries with social media can make them a help rather than a hindrance.  

Promoting causes close to you  

Social media has a great way of having so much reach, things like online petitions can go a long way. Important causes can be listened to and action can be taken as a result. This can help me feel less helpless when disasters or social justice matters occur. I can feel like I’m contributing to the solution, rather than having a sense of disconnect.   

Staying connected to friends  

While it is important to have in-person conversations with friends and loved ones, being able to see what my friends have been up to is something I love about social media. When life gets busy and meet-ups are in the distant future, being able to have a look at what my friends have been up to makes me feel more connected and up to date. While it in no way replaces face-to-face meet-ups, being able to write a comment here and there to friends’ posts and start conversations from Instagram stories helps to feel connected. This feeling of community can be so important for mental health.  

Self Expression  

Another thing I love about Instagram and social media is the ability to express myself and create content I enjoy. I like sharing my hobbies and interests online, and I enjoy seeing other people’s passions and creations take form on social media. Whether it’s simply sharing my current favourite song, or posting a poem I’ve written, I enjoy sharing my interests with my friends on social media. I think expressing yourself online can have positive impacts on self-confidence and mental health, so long as it is alongside healthy boundaries and limits.  

I have often lingered over the idea of deleting social media apps, but I always come back to the idea of community and self-expression. While social media has its downsides, I can see how it can be used for kindness and community building. This is not to say it’s all sunshine, but if used and tailored in the right way, social media can be used for good.

We want to hear your stories! Share your thoughts this Social Media Kindness Day. 

I'm Madeleine, a graduate of the University of York. I love writing and reading other people's stories, and so being on the Student Minds Editorial Team seemed like a no-brainer! While social media has its downsides, I wanted to share how we can use it for good.

Embracing Vulnerability: University, Mental Health and Lessons From Football

Johnnie talks about learning about mental health, getting support and applying the lessons learnt to his writing.

- Johnnie Lowery

I went off to university in 2017 expecting it to be the time of my life. It was all anyone had said to me about my upcoming experience. In the end, the three years I had at University suffered the same fate as an ‘All You Can Eat Buffet’ - there was simply too much pressure to enjoy it for it to actually be a good time. 

Given what I knew about mental health back in those days, perhaps this isn’t too much of a surprise. I struggled with my mental health when I was a teenager without ever knowing it. The term ‘mental health’ didn’t register with me at all and I would have given you a funny look if you’d tried to tell me I suffered from anxiety and depression. I thought going through tough times was normal for a teenager, and so I never looked to get any help. 

Instead, I consoled myself with the notion that things would get better. The short-term fix for this was going to the football at the weekend because this provided enough of an escape to keep me just about functioning. However tough my week was, there was also something to look forward to at the end of the week when I would be able to go and watch my beloved Sutton United.

In the long term, I put all my faith in my future time at university, biding my time until I moved away into Higher Education. But, of course, this isn’t how it works. Freshers’ week was exciting and was certainly a change of pace from my mundane school days, but the change of scene was merely papering over the cracks. I’d done nothing to address the deeper conflict within me. 

Later on in my first year, I had something of a breakdown. It had all just gotten too much. Waking up in what felt like an out-of-body experience the next day, I knew I needed to get help. I knew the wait times on the NHS for counselling were severe, but the health insurance my dad had for his job covered his kids as well. I was able to get support within mere weeks of knowing I needed it, a privilege I’m aware that most people are not afforded. 

We need to do a lot better in our mental health provision as a country, but there is alternative support to what is available on the NHS out there. A lot of universities have mental health support services in place, and many graduate jobs come with health insurance that includes mental health provision. Whatever point of your journey you are at, I thoroughly recommend looking into what might be available for you, even if you don’t currently feel like you need it. There are lots of different routes to support but, for me, having counselling was the first step on my journey to better mental health, but it certainly wasn’t a silver bullet. I continue to have symptoms of depression and anxiety today, but now know how to recognise the signs and deal with them. I’ve recently started a second round of counselling, more specifically targeted at anxiety, which has been very helpful. 

In a slightly more left-field move, I also took to writing a book about the relationship between mental health and my main passion – football. The creative process was a fascinating experience, not least because there were some useful lessons from the football world that I feel are applicable to everyday life. 

One recurring theme that came up was that it’s a strength, not a weakness, to talk about mental health. Doing so allows us to become better versions of ourselves in every element of our lives, be it on the football pitch or otherwise. A second thing I want to touch upon is the importance of having the confidence to reach out for support when you feel you need it. It speaks volumes that the authorities involved with football are investing more than ever in making sure support services are there for footballers. The Professional Footballers’ Association (PFA), for example, provides a counselling service available for any member, with which they will always be able to find a counsellor no more than half an hour from their home. 

Football is still, sadly, a sport in which the stereotype of excessive masculinity pervades. If these footballers in this environment are looking to support their mental health, then you can do it at university too. In the world of football, everyone is finally waking up to the idea that talking about your mental health is a strength and not a weakness. It’s a lesson I first learnt myself during my first year of university.

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available. 

Johnnie Lowery is a keen football fan, following England and Sutton United home and away. His first book, Six Added Minutes, was written while he was at university and published in November 2019. Lowery has a keen interest in mental health based on his own experiences as a teenager when he didn’t understand why he was feeling down. Match Fit is inspired by a desire to ensure mental health does not remain a taboo subject in society.

Managing university and mental health

Alice shares her experience of struggling with her mental health whilst being at university and that it's okay to reach out and get support.

- Alice

I’d always wanted to go to university. I was the nerd, the smart one, the one that everyone had high expectations for. I went to college with high hopes that I’d remain that way, but my mental health had other plans.  

Change is inevitable, we know this. Change is also terrifying, especially for those of us with anxiety. We think of every ‘worst case scenario’, and we torture ourselves over what could go wrong. I have social anxiety which basically means that I over-analyse everything I do, and I feel as if everyone is watching me when frankly they’re probably not. I like to tell my anxiety that even if people are watching, they’re just thinking about how utterly gorgeous I am. However, that’s hard to believe when, in that moment, I feel embarrassed of my entire existence. 

This was a problem at college because there were so many people. Everyone was new and everyone (in my eyes) had their lives together. I, on the other hand, did not.  

Fast forward to university, I felt like a shell of my former self. College drove me into a habit of constant comparison, and I fell into a dark place due to an event that took place. I wanted university to be a fresh start, where I left all my problems behind me but unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Healing takes time and work, but so does university and I needed to find a way to balance them both. 

I struggled at first – I couldn’t cope and with all the university work, I barely had time to breathe. I felt vulnerable and alienated. I often was emotionally distressed so it was hard to sit down at my desk and complete a maths assignment. University is all about working towards a better future and so I asked myself “What is the point?” because at that moment it was hard to see any future for myself. That was my internal conflict.   

My realisation was that unless my mental health was in a better place, I wouldn’t be able to give university my best shot. You’ve probably heard it a thousand times before but it’s important to put your health first. It’s okay to need time. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s better to be alive than in the grave with a bachelor’s degree. I went to the mental health advisor at university, I attended therapy, and I was prescribed anti-depressants by my doctor. It didn’t ‘fix’ me or miraculously take all my darkness away, but it gave me the ability to see things clearer. Life was easier to manage, and I could identify the patterns that were keeping me “stuck”. 

You don’t have to be your own obstacle. You can do it, and it doesn’t have to be at the expense of your mental health.  

“What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candour, and more unashamed conversation.” - Glenn Close. 

The more we speak about it, the more we can see that we’re not alone. Sometimes that’s all we need, to know we’re not the only ones struggling. Reach out, you never have to face it all by yourself. There is help, and most importantly there is hope.

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.

Hi, I'm Alice. I wanted to share my story because I'm hoping it gives some comfort to others that they're not alone and that there's nothing to be ashamed of. Let's end the stigma that we should just 'get on with it'. University is hard enough, let alone being alongside poor mental health. It's okay to need time and support.

What people don’t see: my experience with loneliness at university

Emily shares her experience of loneliness whilst at university and her tips for how to make changes to help with feelings of isolation.

- Emily

Until March of this year, my university experience had been a fairly positive one. There were ups and downs, but I always felt I had a good group of friends and a great boyfriend to support me through difficult times. 

However, much of this changed at the end of my second term at university. After a tough breakup, I felt incredibly lonely and very lost. I found it so difficult to move from having someone to chat with daily to nothing. To make matters worse, it was approaching exam season: mounting academic pressure on myself and my friends meant that I was spending days and days alone. I had tried to reach out to some of my friends, but the busyness and general chaos of exam season meant that replies were infrequent. I feared that my support network was disappearing. Ultimately, my anxiety worsened, and frequent panic attacks returned after almost a year of not experiencing them. Hiding these feelings of loneliness from friends and family only made things worse.   

To begin with, I didn’t really know how to solve the loneliness I was experiencing. It wasn’t until a family member reached out that I felt able to talk about what I was feeling and what I could do to tackle my loneliness at university.   

Here are some things that have helped me to feel less lonely: 

• I spoke to members of my support network about how I was feeling. I even found that some of my friends were also feeling lonely during exam season and were glad I had contacted them.
• I attempted to attend as many society events as possible when the term began again. Joining new societies is also a great way to combat loneliness, as finding people with common interests is an excellent way to build new support networks.  
• I tried to spend less time on social media. Watching other people’s seemingly “perfect” lives often exacerbated feelings of loneliness. I try to leave the house at least once a day. During exam season, I usually visited my local coffee shop to see familiar faces and chat with those who worked there. It made me feel somewhat less isolated.   

I wouldn’t say that I have found a perfect resolution for loneliness. I still experience periods where I feel out of touch with friends and family. However, I now feel more confident to ask for support when needed. Reaching out to members of a support network is so important in tackling feelings of loneliness.    

Loneliness is a truly awful experience. After my recent experiences, I see tremendous value in frequently contacting friends and family. Anyone could be experiencing loneliness at any moment. You don’t always see what people are going through, and a single message could completely change someone’s day. 

We know that experiencing mental health difficulties at university can feel overwhelming. Explore the support that is available at your university and further.

I'm Emily, a second-year History and Spanish undergraduate at Durham University. After struggling with various aspects of my mental health whilst in my first and second year at university and watching close friends struggle too, I've become particularly aware of the stigma surrounding student mental health. I am sharing my story to demonstrate that loneliness is a more common experience at university than people may think. 

Finding your feet: what it means to think about your future

Alex, a counselling student, shares his thoughts on navigating mental health, academic life and previous experiences in employment and the emotional impact. He offers signposts for figuring out what happens next.

- Alex

What happens next can feel like entering a forest alone and without a guiding light. 

I’ve just finished my first year at university studying Counselling and Psychotherapy. While the last year was a mix of excitement, challenges, fun, and stress, I feel an all too familiar sense of anxiety as I find myself at the threshold of the summer holidays …entering into the wilderness of the real world and within that wilderness I must get a job. 

So, a little backstory … Coming to University has been a long journey and one in which I may proudly declare myself as a mature student. I love University: attending lectures, meeting new people, building friendships, countless study sessions in the library, and that feeling of boggle-eyed excitement that what I’m studying will follow me beyond my time at Uni. More than educational or professional development, however, I love the freedom University provides me!  Before University I was in lacklustre and unfulfilling jobs for twelve whole years. While these jobs paid the bills, I always felt and always knew these jobs kept me in a cycle that was detrimental to my mental health. 

A twelve-year cycle of zero-hour contracts, grasping at every extra shift, and ultimately being a doormat for companies that could replace you as quickly as they could fire you.  Within my first year of Uni ending very soon, I can already feel both a yearning for September to swiftly arrive and dread having to fill the subsequent time with work. Maybe anyone finishing their degrees feels a similar sense of anxiety regarding the unknown.

Maybe it’s the temporary popping of the social bubble that university provides. 

Maybe it’s knowing about the “all business” atmosphere employment seemingly functions on.

Maybe it’s all, none, or more of the above.

I feel panicked at the idea of undoing all the personal and professional growth I’ve achieved over the last few years by compromising for a paycheque. Trying to find that seemingly elusive unicorn of a job: a job that develops and challenges my current skills within my chosen degree; a job that pays the bills; a job that doesn’t drain my passion or negatively impact my well-being.  For me, these anxieties conjure within me as debilitating and catastrophizing questions... 

• “What jobs look good on CVs and Placement applications?” 
• “How do I find these perfect jobs?”  
• “What if they turn out to be dead-end or unfulfilling? 
• “How do I know that this job isn’t going to be like my previous negative experiences of jobs?” 

HOWEVER

Noticing these is half the battle. Behind these fears and concerns are passion and enthusiasm, not just for a career, but for myself. There’s a want and a willingness to be my own biggest fan. 

It is this inner “cheerleader” that I listen to when I look at opportunities or seek support. I know what I want and what is best for me. I’d encourage anyone to listen to that inner voice and where it pulls/pushes them regarding what happens next. Yes, career highlights are important, as is keeping yourself financially stable during these trying times. 

Some top tips: 

• Speak to all you can and seek out opportunities for growth but ones that feel right for you. In addressing my own employment experiences, the world is seemingly turning to what employers can offer YOU rather than the other way around. 
• Interviews can and should go both ways, what can these organisations offer to you? 
• Whether you're in the middle of Uni life, like myself, or at the end of your degree, speak to as many of your fellow students, careers advisors, and lecturers as you: out of many conversations a new idea may be brought into your awareness!
• Try writing it down: write down what your inner voice is telling you! spider-diagram any and all ideas that feel right for you!
• Balance your navigation of  "what comes next" with personal downtime... or better yet non-time, enjoy doing nothing at all once in a while, you deserve it!

However, with the idea that not every aspect of you must be an employable commodity, look at the things you love, that you enjoy, and how they flow into what you've studied, you may just make something brand new!

Remember, you’re not alone in the forest. We’re all finding our own way through.

Whether you are looking for support for your own mental health at university or supporting a friend, help is available.

I'm a Counselling and Psychotherapy student wanting to share my experiences of being a student and my mental health. I love drinking endless cups of coffee! reading all I can! Screening movies! and not sitting still!